Kink, Polyamory & LGBTQIA+ Affirming Therapy
CORE SPECIALTY
Online in Arizona & Washington
Your last therapist flinched. I won't. Kink, non-monogamy, queerness — bring all of it.
What this work actually is
Kink isn't a symptom. Non-monogamy isn't a phase. Your identity isn't a topic we need to carefully ease into. This is therapy with a clinician who already knows — no explaining required, no watching your therapist's face for a reaction.
What it can look like
This work shows up in a lot of forms — here's some of the most common.
A past therapist got visibly uncomfortable the second kink or non-monogamy came up — now you need a change
You just opened your relationship and jealousy or old trauma is surfacing harder than you expected
You're falling for a new partner and don't know how — or whether — to tell an existing one
A partner isn't on board with your kink or non-monogamy, and you're trying to figure out what's next
The shame underneath any of this traces back to a religious or family system you're still untangling
Coming out (to yourself, your family, or your community) is bringing up more than you expected
How I work
Nothing here is the thing we're trying to fix.
A lot of clients land here mid-transition — newly non-monogamous, sitting with jealousy they didn't see coming, or trying to find words for feelings that complicate an existing relationship. That's not a red flag. That's just what happens when old material finally has room to surface.
If you need certified sex therapy specifically, I'll say so and point you toward someone who does that work.
Lived Kink Experience
Poly & ENM-Affirming
LGBTQIA+ Affirming
Common Questions
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Yes, fully. Your gender is not up for debate here — we're working with who you actually are, not who you were assigned to be.
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That's actually the overlap I see most. A lot of queer clients carry religious shame about their identity long after they've left the religion itself. We don't have to untangle those separately.
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Both. Coming out, navigating family, figuring out identity outside a script you were handed — none of that requires a religious backstory to belong here.
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It means kink doesn't get treated as a symptom, a red flag, or a topic that needs careful handling. It's just part of your life — same as anything else you bring into the room.
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Very. Monogamy tends to quietly cover old attachment wounds — opening things up just uncovers them. Jealousy isn't proof non-monogamy is wrong for you. It's information, and it's workable.
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Yes — this comes up more than you'd think, and "just be honest" is rarely the whole answer. We'll work through what you're actually feeling and how to say it in a way that's true to you.
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No. Monogamy isn't the default we’re working toward. If you're questioning whether non-monogamy is right for you, that's your call — I'm here to support the thinking, not steer the outcome.
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Individual work can get you clarity on what you need and how to have that conversation. For couples or polycule work specifically, I'll refer you to someone who does that.
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No. A lot of people start therapy while still privately sorting things out. You don't need a label or a public announcement first.
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No — this is affirming, trauma-informed individual therapy. If you need a certified sex therapist specifically, I'll point you to one and keep supporting the rest of your care.
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No — private-pay only, priced through our Equitable Payment Structure. A superbill is available if you want to try for out-of-network reimbursement yourself.
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Not right now. I'm seeing women and gender-nonconforming adults. Wayward's team is growing, and that will open up. Join the waitlist to hear when it does.
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